Shoot That Poison Arrow

Great lyric from a great 80’s song, right?

And as you all know, Jasper loves him some song lyrics, so he used this one in a lesson he was teaching me about the source of our ever-present fear of change, which is arguably the biggest thing holding us back from getting what we want in life, both spiritually and physically.

Just as a refresher, we all have this huge subconscious mind that holds all the memories of our present and past lives, but also contains all the fears we’ve developed over the eons we’ve been incarnating on this planet.

Fears are not always a bad thing, because the early ones we developed came about as a means to help us survive a life here. We had to learn that if we saw a sabre tooth tiger, we shouldn’t walk in front of it, because these human bodies we occupy are crunchy and tasty to many predators, and so what might have already been a short life would be made considerably shorter. Those basic survival fears evolved with us, and sometimes come into play even today.

Picture your subconscious having this huge barrel full of arrows that represent all your stored up fears, and when you confront something that it recognizes as a bad thing that has happened to you in the past, it grabs one and shoots it into your head so you end up looking like a Steve Martin comedy routine from the 70’s, just to get your attention and let you know something dangerous could be happening.

Say you’re at a crosswalk with your head buried in your phone, and there is an 18 wheeler coming down the street that doesn’t see you. Your subconscious relates that situation to walking in front of that sabre tooth from 40,000 years ago, and shoots off a warning arrow to hopefully get your attention and release some adrenalin to get you back on the curb before the truck hits you. It’s helping you survive by dredging up fears that were put in place for reasons that may no longer exist, but can be comparable to current ones.

After we learned and stored away enough survival fears to get us a reasonable life span here, we started to band together in small groups of hunter-gatherers to make life easier, but that created a need for a whole new class of fears, ones I call tribal fears.

You’re whole life revolved around and depended on the tribe of people you lived with, so if someone left the tribe, even if they only went to live a short distance away, they were considered to be dead, because it was a pretty safe bet they would never be seen again.

Fast forward to your current life. You are in a bad relationship, a bad job or any kind of situation that you want to change, so you start thinking about doing something different. Right away, your ever watchful subconscious starts shooting those protective arrows into your head letting you know that if you leave your tribe, you’ll probably die or something, because that’s what happened before, so you better not take the chance. Just stay where you are, it tells you. At least you know you’re safe there.

So what can be done about this overbearing, over protective subconscious that never wants anything to change? Luckily, you also have access to your higher self, your guide, and they can overrule your subconscious by showing you the way forward if you believe and trust in them.

Will it still be scary sometimes? Of course. Life isn’t meant to be all lollipops and rainbows. You never learn anything if you don’t have to confront problems and solve them. The secret lies in turning the emotion of fear from something that stops you dead in your tracks into an emotion akin to an adrenalin rush that can help propel you forward. We’re all adrenalin junkies anyway, or we would never have thought it was a good idea to leave our perfect lives on the other side and come here to experience all this negativity. Am I right? I think so.

The thing we all need to work on is recognizing our fears, and most especially determining where they are coming from. In the 21st century, the fears we need to dredge up, or have shot into our heads concerning survival are minimal, so most of what holds us back are tribal fears. Seeing them for what they are and knowing that leaving our tribe, or perhaps changing tribes isn’t going to cost us our lives. In some instances, it may actually improve our lives, if not save them.

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As always, I wish you love and light.